Critical Keys for Good Relationships

Critical Keys for Good Relationships - Learn the basics for a happy and healthy relationship, including the importance of touch, attitude, listening, and intimacy.

Time together - Learn about the importance of spending time with your partner. Why it’s necessary to schedule time to enjoy things together. How traditions can help keep relationships together. Learn how to share the load everyday and be yourself.

Playing - Just because you’re an adult doesn’t mean that you stop playing. Spontaneity for adventures together or just cuddling and lightening up can be fun for couples.

Friends - Friendships sometimes suffer as a relationship grows. You partner may not like your friends and vice versa. Learn how best to deal with this problem.

Handling Problems - If you have a fully honest relationship, problems will arise. You can learn to handle those problems in ways that are best for both partners.

Giving - Learn how giving and taking affects your relationship and how handling this affects the health and happiness of the relationship.

Don’t Hold Back - A healthy relationship is dependent on honesty and full communications. Share your problems and your happiness. Learn to avoid keeping feeling locked up.

Show Your Love - An important but often overlooked aspect of relationships. Here is a list of ways to show your love to your partner.

Share With Care - How you share is just as important as what you share. Learn to avoiding measuring what you get related to what you give.

Respect - This is a critical topic because without respect a relationship can never be good. In spite of this, mutual respect is lacking in many intimate relationship.

the only one for me

I saw them in the light
Loving and holding each other tight
Everybody has someone in their heart
And here I am lonely from the start

I journey here and there
But I've never found him anywhere
The only One for me
who'll love only me...
I know there's someone out there for me
And there's Someone who really loves me as me
He just want me to be me
and wait for the only one for me...

by: frendofmine

The Hidden Truth

I wear a smile in front of you
To try to cover my shame
Why didn't I think this through?
For now I bear this smile of pain

The tears of sorrow roll down my cheek
And flow with a neverending pain
They leave a permanent silver streak
As I live this pitiful life in vain

My heart aches in the memory of you
And the love that we once shared
How could I have lost something so true?
My love, best friend...someone who finally cared

"It's your destiny." some might say
But everytime I hear it I get more upset
Now I must spend each passing day
In my hopeless world of regret

This state of mind eats at me
But I just can't forget about you
I feel so blind. Why can't I see?
For, a love like this nobody should lose

These painful words linger on my lips
And sting my honest tongue
I just can't stop thinking like this
And regretting what I have done.

by: Sarah Lorraine

Wounded

I want to reach out
beyond the confines
of this self-made hell.

I’m lost; confused; alone.

Inside I’m still hurt;
my heart locked away
behind a rugged scab.
This blood inside me
lies cold and stagnant;
hardened to create
a protective shell.
But the wound beyond -
that it helps protect;
never seems to heal…

by: Mitchell Thompson

FEELING BLUE

There are times in our lives when we are swept over by raging emotions. Times when we are overwhelmed by sadness and overcome by misery. Times when we feel that we are loved only for the worth others could get from us and not for who we really are. It is but natural to feel this way. Sometimes, we all need to be alone, to feel blue, to feel lonely, to listen to a song and cry...

Then we ask ourselves, why does this song have to end? Why do we have to cry when love is taken away from us? Why does it have to hurt when we let go of someone we love?
In a relationship we treasure, the hardest thing to do is saying goodbye and setting someone free. In every last embrace, a part of us dies. Every teardrop that falls washes away our hopes. Then, we are left with nothing but pain and bitter memories because we have lost but never knew how and will probably never knew why.

We try to get away but every move we make somehow has its way of reminding us of the past all over again. Every turn of our head and every blink of an eye remind us of something lost in eternity. It makes us wonder how one person can make us feel so empty, so alone, and so desolate.

Every song, no matter how beautiful it is will have to end on its own time. It is inevitability that we cannot restrain, something that we cannot control, and just a fact that we have to accept and live up with.

Let us remember that our lives do not have to end where our heartaches begin. Somewhere, someone will come along and sing us songs of love. Someday, someone will fill our lives with joy and laughter. Somehow, we will find love again. It will wipe our tears and bring us the promise of a new life, a new hope, and a beautiful beginning.

WHY AM I AFRAID TO LOVE?

Throughout life, we have this greatest craving of being loved. But the paradox is
this: if we seek to fill the void of our own loneliness in seeking iove from others, we wiil inevitably find no consolation but oniy a deeper desolation.

It is true that you're nobody till somebody loves you. Only the person who has experienced true love is capable of growing, and of maturing. If however a person seeks not to receive love, but rather to give it, he will become lovable and he will most certainly be loved in the end.

The only way we can do this is to stop being concerned with ourselves. Loving others can be truly accomplished only when the focus of our minds and the happiest object of our desires is another when all our activity results from concern for another and not for ourselves.

But how can we love if we have never been loved"?

All of us have some capacity to love, some ability to move the focus of our minds out from ourselves to the needs, happiness, and fulfillment of others. To the extent that we do this; to the extent that we actualize this potential that is latent within us, we will be loved. Even if at the beginning we can love only a little, we shall be loved a little, and the love that we receive will empower us to grow more reai and more of our true selves in the direction that love leads.
To love, one must have enormous motivation... Motivation towards goodness of humanity, since love, which of its essence seeks only the good of others, and is willing to pay the high price of self-forgetfulness...

Love never ends... It is a long and hard road we have rarely explored: it is an altar of sacrifice; It asks an enormous amount of self-forgetfulness and not pride...
Love is the only real meaning to our human destiny and to the feet of the Almighty, who loveS.